The purpose of the article is to argue that the association between death drive, violence and self-destruction can be misleading and artificial. This association is the symptomatic camouflage of something completely different, namely psychologization which makes the impact of social forces unconscious. Social forces, when incorporated into the family and into our constitution as subjects, make us think that it is natural and desirable to want to kill and die. But such a representation could be seen as a construction or as the invention of an abandoning father.