This paper examines violence specific to gender constructs. The current state of the art as well as the etymological and historical analysis of the term ‟violence” set us down the path to hierarchical relations and norms. Indeed, the power of discriminating and segregating a majority from a minority has considerable effects on both the psyche and gender constructions. This is precisely what is highlighted by Judith Butler’s concept of ‟gender melancholy”, which situates the origin of the gendered subject within the dialectic of desire and prohibition that is incorporated into the psyche. From this perspective, gender would proceed from a reversal in the ego or rather against the ego. By making the object cathexis – here, the primary homosexual object – regress to ego identification, gender is similar to the trope of melancholy. This tour de force inevitably revives the previous conflict with the object within the psyche. Through this reversal, I will try and shed light on the manifestations of aggressiveness against this gendered self, henceforth disguised under the features of the object. Through this research, I wish to stress the violence inherent in gender constructions and further show how hatred and destructiveness create gender.